The biggest reflexive and automatic response in my life is my tendency to judge.
Judge how the cashier forgot and took too long to get my iced coffee.
Judge how attractive or ugly that woman walking opposite me on the street is.
Judge how good or bad that friend is for not replying to my messages in the expected time.
All my judgements create a duality.
This duality is of aversion and attraction.
Where there is aversion and attraction there must be a preference.
When there is a preference, there can be no choice but anxiety and suffering towards the thing that I don’t want.
It’s so engrained in society people don’t realize because it’s been like this their whole lives.
Schools preach getting high grades, as if it’s “good” to get higher grades and “bad” to get lower grades.
Social media, news, movies, and my parents make judgements on everything and everyone all day long. It’s no wonder that everyone is conditioned to judge and judge and judge.
Where there is a judgement, there must be a preference.
Where there is a preference, there must be aversion and attraction.
Where there is aversion and attraction, suffering and misery must follow.
The only way out of this suffering is to recognize my reflexive judgements and the way they make me feel.
Only once I recognize how my judgements makes me feel, then what needs to happen will happen.
We are socially conditioned to judge everything and everyone all the time.
The only way out is to walk away from society.
Only then the tendrils of conditioning may have a chance to not touch me.
Then I may have a chance to live how nature intended me to live.